We are born free ..free of thoughts …free of prejudices and free of any malice …free from love ..free from affection ..free from wanting to hold on to anything …but somewhere down the road of life we are given the curse that we have to bear for the rest of lives ….we are fed with an ability which society and our surroundings almost shove down our throat ..the ability and the habit to JUDGE
We judge people on the basis of everything ..from what they wear to what they speak to what they eat ..how they look ..how they live their life and sometimes even on the basis of who they hang out with …we judge them to be good …or bad …we judge to be too intelligent for us ..we judge them to be too dumb for us ..we judge them to be morally inferior to us and we judge them for almost everything they do.We become so engrossed in this judging process that we forget that we were born free of these judgements …if not physically then mentally we are born equal ..born clean of thoughts ….life implants them into our head ..
What makes us feel superior to another human being??? …what makes one person good and the other person bad ???..why do we look at everybody and want to fit them into some image that we have in our head of a prototype??? ….does it give us a sense of comfort that we now know this person cause we have fitted them into a mould ….does it make us feel less vulnerable or does it make us feel not so bad about our own self ….I have always wondered ..and I have always wanted to know why do we judge ….
We have people around us whose choices sometimes we don’t agree on and we judge them without knowing that we are doing so …we look at them with pity if we feel that their choices will lead them to what we think is unhappiness and moral degradation …when you judge someone for a choice that person makes ,you are questioning the very basis of all human relationships and you are actually doing it for selfish reasons .. …My theory is that when we judge someone else ..we are just wanting to feel superior about ourselves ..otherwise how will we be able to justify our choice of lifestyle ????.... if we feel that the other person is happy in what he feels or sees correct ..then doesn’t our choice seem wrong and theirs better?? ….. And that would mean questioning everything that we have felt has been right for us till know ..
I get judged a lot ..by friends ..by peers and by my family too …they accept me but almost always grudgingly ..sometimes because they don’t feel like picking an argument or sometime for other reasons …if they had a choice would they like me to be changed and conform to their defination of right and wrong ??….almost always!! …..it used to not matter to me …but today it did …cause someone got called something in a conversation just because that person was MY friend …so that person got slotted into a prototype …it was not that they were judging that person they judged me and by default another human being also ….because I only can be around a “certain” kind of people …
Why did it hurt me today to be judged ..because sometimes you get tired putting up a facade of being happy that you are being accepted grudgingly ….and that too by your friends ..a term I am using for people who you don’t mind showing your real self too …and hope that they love you for who you are …we should not be putting up a façade of any behavior but we do ..all to be accepted and not to be judged …we sometimes hide our emotions cause we fear being judged…..we sometimes run away from life cause we are judged …….and if we cant handle it we end up in a coffin ….cause then we cant handle looking at ourselves …as the world has already passed its judgement on us
We all get painted by a brush …the brush of judgement …its your luck what color you pick up when life brushes you with that brush …its not in your hands
so why bother ….because no one ever will stop judging you …
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ReplyDeleteIt's really nice to read your thoughts and somehow inspired me to pen down mine here. I would not judge and say if you are right or wrong as I feel there is no one right answer to certain emotions and feelings. It's just that I see it differently. I think a child is not born free really; s/he develops from a foetus into a baby in the womb depending on the mother.It is a natural process which you may deny accepting but I am sure if the Creator wanted He could have made an external system of child birth or whatever you call it. I do get the meaning between your lines but I just feel that the very notion of attachment and dependancy is embedded within us even before birth. From there grows the ties and emotions. I completely agree to the fact that many do not live life the way they want to or the way they actually are for the fear of losing...losing social status, losing respect, losing love, losing family, losing friends, so on and so forth ...losing being the key word here..but there are so many who live life the way they are. Why question or be judgemental? It's just an individual's way of living. Of course life and it's flow do influence the mind but it's okay! You don't always need to think out of the box. Well I should not end up writing another blog! Keep the writings coming :) You have an ardent reader xx
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ReplyDeleteWell all I wanna say Mr. Khan if I may, that as long as you judge yourself rightly, doesnt really matter who said what... you are certainly not the kind who will take these things at heart
ReplyDeleteYes people will judge based on their prejudices and based on tne norms of the society in general. WHat is good for you may be bad for me and what is bad for me may be good for you and so on and so forth...it's all relative in the end isn't it. So I guess what I'm trying to say is -**** what anyone thinks about you. You are the most important person in your life and all that matters is what you think of yourself. Be yourself and if people find it hard to accept you then clearly it's their loss. Cheers!
ReplyDeleteSamar! first of all! congratulations on your first BlogPost! :)
ReplyDeletevery heart felt and honest writing!
Baseless judgments never stopped the fearless.
nothing should stop you either. :)
Keep writing! x :)
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