Relationships come with an expiry date ...Love Shouldn't

I stand in my apartment balcony at 11.45 this Tuesday night and see the twinkling lights of the city in the distance… there's nothing more beautiful and enthralling than the night and a clear sky after a bout of rain that has swept away the dust… I love the night and its beauty... but somewhere inside is the fear of losing it... I know that in a couple of hours, the sun will rise and take this beauty away… It's inevitable… This night, like every other night, is mine for only a certain number of hours... It comes with an end written at the time of its beginning…

Aren't  human relationships something like this night that I'm standing and enjoying in my balcony? What has to start has to end, and what has begun will conclude… Don’t we all know that??? And if we do, then why do we try so hard to hold on to relationships? Sometimes, we try so hard that we suffocate ourselves, making the next breath impossible to take… Why do we allow the pain of a breakup to become so intense that the heart feels like it will stop beating? Is it because we are afraid of loss, or is it because we've not accepted that whatever starts will end, and whatever begins will one day fade away. It's something similar to what we did as children… We all had a toy which we loved the most, much more than all our other toys… We loved it so much that the fear of losing that toy sometimes took away from the joy of playing with it… We hid it from the world, didn't let anyone ever touch it and many of us lost sleep, worrying about what we'd do if someone was to take that toy away from us. The thought was so unbearable, and we spent so much time worrying, that we didn't have enough time to enjoy the toy, to experience the pleasure of playing with it while we still had it. For most of us, that child still lingers somewhere inside. We're still scared of losing the toy to someone or something. And that fear makes us forget that now is the time to play with it, to make the most of it and make the best of the time we have with it. Won't our lives and relationships improve if we simply accept that all relationships come with an expire date, that there will come a day when two people realise that they've enjoyed everything they had to give to each other and have made the most of their time together??? That it's time to finally let the toy go...

Why do we meet people??? Why are we attracted to that one person in the crowd?? I think it's our energy that attracts other energies. My theory is that we're constantly drawn to, and attract people who will fulfill what we are missing in our lives at that point in time... Like yin and yang… A vital part of the energy that'll make us complete is missing and from somewhere in the universe, somebody is sent to complete us… And we complete them… But what happens when that energy is completed and we feel a sense of fulfillment?? Is it time to quietly let go, without pain and recrimination, or draw something out till what was once beautiful becomes distorted and ugly? Because pain is inevitable if we stretch something out even after karma and nature have run its course. When we hold on to karma unnaturally, we cause hurt and grief… A relationship should be a celebration of the time spent together, not a preparation for the pain that it's end will bring with it. Because all relationships come with expiry dates, but love shouldn’t.

As I stand in my balcony, I know that the sun will rise in a few hours and take away my cherished night... But I also know that it will set again, and the night will be back again… It's simply karma; if something is taken away from you, it will come back eventually… At least we can live in that hope… But even if it doesn't, we can still hold on to love… Because it's a feeling that comes with no expiry date… … I was looking up the meaning of the word 'love' and wherever I looked, it didn't mention anything about possession, holding on tight, or keeping something or someone for keeps. All I found was that it's an emotion to be felt deep inside, onei that should liberate, not suffocate... We suffocate our love when we tie it down within the confines of a relationship…

Kaanch ke Khwab hain …

Anknon main chobh jayenge …

Palko main lena inhe …

Anknon main ruk jayenge ..

Yeh raat hain Khwab ki

Phir wahi raat hain

Raat hain khwab ki ..

Dekha karnge tumhe ..

Raat hain khwab ki…

Thankyou Gulzar saab …..